Dennis and Chidinma, graduates, met at NYSC orientation camp. Both 24 years old. They started dating and soon after, they are planning to get married. 

Fast forward months after service. Dennis doesn't yet have a job but hustles. Chidinma is in her father's house. Nothing doing.

Dennis loves her so much he's ready to do anything to have enough money to marry her.

Dennis is under intense pressure to get a job, double his hustles and do just about anything. However, Chidinma is in no sort of pressure. She is quite relaxed in her father's house. 

Dennis sends her weekly allowances out of his many hustles.

Her bride price list is scary but Dennis is determined to show her he loves her. 

In fact, she has told him where she would love to stay after the marriage ceremony, the type of wedding gown, jewelry, shoes etc. she prefers, the size of wedding she wants etc. All these raise his blood pressure but man is convinced that he'd pull through. 

The Nigerian reality:

Two people, same age, education, equal opportunities but one is saddled with the burden of the other. Only one is under pressure and if he doesn't meet up, can be shamed and dumped for it.

Dennis and Chidinma are Nigerians.

This is the fate of the Nigerian man. We are raised to suffer and die for women.

Me : I am training my son to drop anyone that will put any financial pressure on him and he should stay alive no matter what 

Good a thing he’s growing in a country where a woman must feed herself with her hands or nothing and he will still get a submissive one too 

I am coaching him to make Indian women and Asia the Prize 

I told my wife if for any reason God forbid we are no more, I will marry an Asian woman, like Pakistani, Indian , Afghanistan, Sri Lanka, Turkey, Singapore especially those who grew under a typical traditional conclaves.. 

Because I have unravelled the mystery why many Nigerian men die young.. if a Nigerian man in Nigeria lives up to 50 years in this Era he must have been either an Alpha male or he was born to affluence or by Gods infinite mercy.. 

The amount of pressure men are put on in Nigeria financially if they expose their counter parts in other parts of the world to it - many men will most likely not live up to 50 as well or even less…

I know most Nigerian men want to have a woman who stays at home and then return to a nice meal and warm massages and still won’t bother you financially , there are countries who still offer that but the problem usually is that as a Nigerian man your passport won’t let you get there easily an the world are slowly realising how valuable a Nigerian man is !! 

This is why every tik tok video women are always talking of Nigerian men, these women don’t even need you to do much, they just want you to do what you can…